–Hi Everyone! It’s me again, Laurie
Valentine’s Day will be upon us in the next 30 days. I am writing to share some good advice and save all you guys out there from a night in the doghouse.
For most of the men in this world, I know life’s daily routines and responsibilities are your main objective. You work hard to provide the best life you can for your wife and kids. You want to be acknowledged once in a while for all that you do to provide the good life you created for your family. Those are some tough shoes to fill but you do it everyday without complaint or any expectation of reward. Most of the time you’re wondering if your wife and kids understand all that you do to provide for them. Do they appreciate what you do? You become the silent soldier.
Then, once a year, an unofficial holiday arrives that can literally wreak havoc on your life, “Valentine’s Day”.
1. If you forget it, you have a one-way ticket to the doghouse for an unspecified amount of time.
2. If you buy something that is not personal enough, you could be expecting the cold shoulder for at least a few days.
3. Or, one of the worst things, you buy her some household item she needs and she completely explodes telling you how utterly thoughtless you are. You on the other hand are baffled and try to understand what you did wrong and just try to defuse the situation.
I get it. That’s why I’m here to help!
Let’s start by saying, your wife, just like you, wants to be appreciated for the things she does. She might wash your clothes, make your meals, clean your house, tend your children and/or work a full time job too. She might do it all but whatever it is she does, it is done because she love’s you and the children.
The big “to do” about “Valentine’s Day” for women is this. This is the one-day your wife is recognized as an individual. Not for being mom, not for what she does for you but for who she is to you. It is the one-day that she wants you to acknowledge her as the women you pursued and proclaimed your undying love for. (Do you remember that?) Those were the days when you treated her like a queen.
Often, couples that have been together for many years loose passion in the relationship. It’s easy to understand; life’s situations kind of sucks it out of you. The best part is you can get it back and it’s simple really. Let your wife know how much she means to you. DO NOT just buy her a card. Write it, or say it. It was always told to me that a man wants to be king of his castle, as no man likes to be told what to do. Well then, elaborating on that thought, a good king (who doesn’t want to be overthrown) will lead his people with compassion and understanding. The key here is, “lead”. A man who can lead his marriage with compassion and understanding will be a happily married man. I can assure you that your wife will make you feel like a king.
So, I leave you with this. Start this Valentine’s Day, February 14, 2010 making your wife feel like your queen. It never really was about the gift you buy for her but how you make her feel about you and her. I have put up some links for some great inexpensive gifts so you’re not empty handed. But make sure you give her what she really wants and that would be you!